Understanding someone else's PMS
Around 90 percent of women experience PMS of some kind every period. PMS sometimes can be sometime a bonding moment for some while devastating separating moments for others and everyone else around them. Despite being aware of our action, sometime our PMS can catch us (even the most understanding of partners) off guard. This is one of the reason why it is very important for both men and women to undrestand PMS and how to manage it in an appropriate way -- because no two women experience PMS the same.
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Mood disorders like PMS and PMDD can be a part of the bigger menstrual cycle. PMS can show itself through both physical and emotional symptoms. With PMDD there can be added psychological symptoms because PMDD further alters the hormone levels present in the body and mind.
Is that why they are crying or seem extra frustrated?
Yep! PMS and PMDD can cause sudden mood swings, anxiety, depression, fatigue, irritability and feelings of extreme stress which can manifest physically through something like crying. Not everyone cries when they’re PMS-ing, but it can be more likely to happen.
Let’s be real. Sometimes PMS sucks! It can make you irritable and have intense mood swings. Sometimes we don’t even know that’s why we’re acting that way. As with anything else, just treat them with respect and listen to their needs. Sometimes things like cooking dinner for them, buying a small gift, preparing a nice bath or just listening to them moan about work can help them feel better. And, if they tell you they want to be left alone, just do it! And never… ever… ever… ask them if they’re PMSing just because they seem moody. That’s a bad road to go down.
The easy answer is that trans men could still experience a period, and transgender women will not. But this is all down to what types, if any, of HRT (hormone replacement therapy) they take. If a trans man is taking HRT that includes testosterone, their period could stop, change, or remain the same. A trans woman who takes HRT that includes estrogen may experience PMS-like symptoms like anxiety, bloating, breast or stomach pains. This could happen on a monthly basis just like PMS.
How should I speak to my transgender (friend, partner, child, etc.) about their period?
Ultimately, you should only speak with a trans person about their period if they have explicitly communicated they are comfortable speaking about it with you.
If you want to speak with your trans child about their cycles, be kind, patient and listen to them if they communicate that they are uncomfortable. It may be a difficult conversation and could trigger feelings of dysphoria if not approached with care and the correct language.
I made a joke that my (friend, partner, child, etc.) must be PMS-ing because they seemed moody. Why are they mad?
For many, PMS isn’t funny. We can feel sad, mad, happy, hungry, irritated, elated and about 100 other emotions on the same day or even all at once. Dismissing someone as PMS-ing because they express an emotion that seems extreme to you isn’t funny. Also, it’s a really cliche joke.